Getting by…
Once you have been through a rough patch, in time you get over the whole thing. Most often, things never go back to the way they were. So you have to close that chapter of your life and move on. But sometimes, yes, sometimes, if you are lucky… things can go back pretty much to the way they were before you hit rock bottom.
Once you have accepted what happened and things finally settle down, how do you actually deal with the situation?
Say, you get hurt in the process and you tell yourself you will never make the same mistakes again, like letting your guard down and trusting so easily how do you face the new scenario?
In my mind, I will never forget the pain I had to endure with regard to a friendship but now when I meet my friend and talk to him it is as though things never went wrong in the first place. He acts as though we have always been ‘best buddies’.
He wants to forget the nasty patch and move on. Should I do the same? After what happened I told myself I will never to ‘let go’ again. Is this the correct approach? Do I ignore everything and go with the flow and act as though nothing actually happened and open a new chapter and accept the current situation as it is?
Are these all a part of the ups and downs of life, where you win some you lose some? Do I risk getting hurt again and allowing those healed wounds to get festered again? Or do I hold on to the good times and remember, in spite of everything that he was a good friend to me and just be glad that I still have a dear friend to hold on to? Should I be glad that he is back in my life in some way or the other?
